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Message par Le Negrier le Mer 28 Jan - 19:04

Women everywhere want to know...WHY BLACK MEN LOVE WHITE WOMEN? - Going Beyond Sexual Politics to the Heart of the Matter. by Rajen Persaud.

I started reading this interesting writing today. But before I post some of the reasons the author gives as the basis to this controversial social matter, what are yours?

Do you think Black Men really love White Women? Why do you think this is the case?

Do Black Women also love White Men? Why do you think this is or is not the case?

When I finish reading, I will come back with the author's point of view.

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Message par Nappy Soul le Mer 28 Jan - 19:22

Oh no you didn't...!!! Awesome subject.
I'll be back to rap on this in a sec.
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Re: WHY BLACK MEN LOVE WHITE WOMEN? BY Rajen Persaud

Message par Silver le Ven 30 Jan - 3:30

I think that black men, we generally love our black women but are curious about women of other races. The curiousity is even more fueled by this fascination non black women have with us. We've basically been living in a white man's world for the last 400 years. The white man has been comfortable in thinking he is on top of things when it comes most matters on earth, whether it's mental capacity or control of power. One thing though the white man hasn't been sure of being THE MAN is sexual prowess, at least when compared to the black man. The white man is aware of that, so is the black man (with a smile), and of course all women are aware of that too. In essence, whitey can call himself romantic but he knows that when it comes down to the bisness, the nubian male has the tool and the best way to use that tool. I am not making anything up, zillions of surveys have been conducted on this subject, we have heard stories dating back to slavery.....conclusion: the black man is the bisness. For many black guys that's the only way to feel like you are the king of the world, taking the "king's" woman and "doing" better than the king himself. I am not condoning this type of thinking, I think It reduces the black man to the merely role of a sexual beast when we know we have more to give. Unfortunately you have black males who have made of their sexuality a business, they live off screwing white women, whether it's in the US, Haiti (watch the movie " Moving south") or Africa.
Do black women love white men? The black man has this sexual myth about him, the same goes for the white man with his "romantic" myth. How many sistaz pull out the " I am gonna find me a white man" every time they are cheated on or feel that their black man isn't treating them right. They buy into these "Harlequin" stories. Actually, asian women are the worse, they have this crazy fascination with white males that is beyond many people understanding. I can't go into specifics, because that's not my culture, but I know for sure (what i've seen , and people talk about this), you can have a whitey looking like frankeinstein, he is sure to get himself a very good looking asian girl. One of my hispanic friends (who hates the fact that asian ladies easily fall for white guys) call this the "me luv you looong time" syndrome, Smile go figure.
Back to the sistas. Many have this illusion of the romantic white guy until they experience the opposite. A few weeks ago, while on vacation, I met a girl from Cameroon who told me a very sad story, I wont go into specifics but basically the guy brought her from her country to Canada (il a meme paye la dot), but when she arrived in Canada she became his object. When he was done with her, he threw her out. I ain't going to generalize but we've heard a lot of similar stories, the two-faced white guy who is niiiiice in the beginning and then turns evil when he doesn't need you anymore. At least a brother wouldn't throw you out like a garbage bag. Oh yeah! Another reason for that makes whitey attractive to sistas is $$$$. Most brothers belong to the middle class (if not lower), whereas a lot of whiteys are financially very comfortable. So its not unusual to see beautiful sistas dating frankeinstein looking whiteys with a prettier bank account.

Ultimately, I am not against interracial dating/marriage, I did experienced the swirl a few years ago Twisted Evil Twisted Evil , we all God's children after all. If two people of difference races really love each other and decide to live their love, that's beautiful and admirable. But truth is, most of interracial relationships are triggered by curiousity/materialism/illusion and other superficial reasons.


Dernière édition par The Special one le Sam 31 Jan - 0:07, édité 1 fois
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Re: WHY BLACK MEN LOVE WHITE WOMEN? BY Rajen Persaud

Message par *Maadox le Ven 30 Jan - 15:10

Good one @ the special one...you broke it down very well.

For my account, i am not particularly attracted to white dudes...most of the times, i can't relate or find them boring...however, its not a big deal...I just don't think i would settle with one.
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Message par Silver le Ven 30 Jan - 23:57

Oops! I've just read my posting, it's full of mistakes. I didn't do proofreading before posting. I'll correct my mistakes.
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Message par Ya Murielle le Sam 31 Jan - 21:56

messieurs, cet article devrait flatter votre ego au point de le faire eclater. Smile Laughing




A White Woman Explains Why She Prefers Black Men
How many white men can treat a woman like a lady and ravish her

By Susan Crain Bakos
Black skin is thick and lush, sensuous to the touch, like satin and velvet made flesh. There's only one patch of skin on a white man's body that remotely compares to nearly every inch of a black man's skin. The first time I caressed black skin, it felt like a luxury I shouldn't be able to afford. I craved it more strongly than Carrie Bradshaw craved Manolo Blahnik shoes. That phrase, "Once you go black, you never go back" is all about the feeling of the skin.

And I had the socially acceptable explanation for my craving. I used that paucity-of-available-white-partners rationale to explain my relationships with black men for several years. A white woman past forty is often passed over by her white-male contemporaries. She goes younger or ethnic or foreign-born or down the socioeconomic scale or darker or she spends lonely nights at home with her cats. Black men are happy to get the babe they couldn't have when she was twentysomething and fertile. The laws of the marketplace do prevail. It's not me, it's themthem being the white guys who weren't after me anymore, or so I claimed.

That's a lie. The truth is, I attract about the same percentage of available white men my age (and far younger!) now as I did when I was thirtyand that's not including the unavailable white men who want to play around anyway.

Enough white men want me that I was hardly facing enforced celibacy, but I don't want them.

I want black men. They want me. We look at one another and exchange a visible frisson of sexual energy in the lingering glances. And our attraction is based first on race. We are not those couples who "happen to fall in love" with someone of a different race or more purposefully come together but out of some greater sense of interracial understanding and respect. Not as politically-correct men and women do we seek one another out. The Internet has made it a lot easier for us to find each other now. Men advertise: ebony seeks ivory. Women write: seeking tall, dark, and handsome. Very dark. We are not the same people who say: Race is not important. It is important to us. We have race-specific desires.

Even in a time when nearly 40 percent of single Americans have dated outside their race, that deliberate seeking of the specific other makes some people, especially black women, damned mad.

We are what they denigrate and castigate: white women and black men who choose one another because of our racial differences. They resent our taking their men. Black men are two and a half times more likely to marry a white woman than a black woman is to marry a white man. Black women can point to that statistic in justifying their wrath. But in truth, black sisters, we're after the sex, not the ringand these guys aren't the marrying kind anyway.

Yes, the sex!

The woman who goes after black men is a variant of sex journalist Susie Bright's "white bitch in heat," a woman who puts sex first even though women aren't supposed to do that. According to one school of thought, white women turn to black men when their sex drives kick into higher gear and their social inhibitions recede into the rearview mirror. It's a "yes, baby, now I'm ready for you" reaction.

When we get to the "yes, baby" place, they know it, and they are ready and waiting for us. Black men have more energy, style and edge than white men. They know how to flirt, a nearly lost art among the rest of us. A black man is so damned sexy because he knows how to make a woman feel sexy.

Black men have something white guys don't have anymore: confidence in their masculinity, their sexuality. They clearly know they're men. White men appear to be waiting for the latest sociological research study to let them know if they are men or not. Yet black men are gentlemen, something else white men no longer are. They make me feel like a woman, both respected and desired. I can let go of my inhibitions, my need to control, when I am with them. How many white men can treat a woman like a lady and ravish her too?

I often felt in my White Period that only during heated sex does that little layer of air bubbles between me and the world pop and disappear, leaving me open to intimate connection. It takes a lot of friction for two white people to get that close. These black men, so alive with erotic electricity, cut through the bubbles with a touch, a caress, a kissand they free meand I can truly touch them. I am like a pampered passenger in a Porsche with an expert driver at the wheel. I know I could suggest a route change, but I never really want to do that. On the other hand, the last time I had sex with a white man, we slogged along a bumpy road in a really old VW, the driver like the typical bumbling tv husband who would neither ask for nor accept the directions he badly needed.


My current lover, a handsome businessman, seduced me via eye contact at a neighborhood bar while I was eating burgers with a friend. Without saying a word, he paid the compliments, asked the questions with his expressive eyes. He didn't move over to sit beside me and ask if he could buy me a drink until he knew the time was right. Both soft-spoken and assertive, he has impeccable manners and charm. I was kissing him in a cab 30 minutes after that drink.

On another night in that same bar, a different black man, an artist, knelt and kissed my knees.

I am sure there must be some black men who aren't good in bed. Personally, I have not experienced one who isn't. (True, I am not dating down the socioeconomic ladder, but I didn't do that when I dated white either, so the racial comparisons seem valid and fair.) They look better than white men, they touch and kiss and make love better than white men. Statistically, their penises are only a fraction of an inch bigger on average, but they seem bigger and harder.

White men over 40 have lost their waistlines and their zest for lifeif they ever had it. They carry resentments, grudges and extra pounds in their basketball bellies. Perhaps a good part of that bloat is unhappiness. Even the thin ones look flabby somehow and deeply aggrieved. They nurse the smallest perceived slight longer than their double shots of Scotch. Surely our culture as much as biology turns them into softer, spongier, less-interesting versions of their youthful selves just at the point where women and black men and other minorities are emerging strong. Society overvalues the white man, leaving him angry and bitter when he realizes, around age 40, that he's not all that.

With the exception of some Italians, white men don't turn me on anymore.

That admission puts me in the same category as the older man only interested primarily or exclusively in young women. While women my age scowl and frown at these aging, Upper West Side Boomers pushing strollers as the hand of the thin, blonde wife 20 years their junior rests lightly on their arm, I feel a kinship with the old goats. We are the same, me and that bald white guy, drawn to the exotic other, not caring that the object of our desire has no childhood memory of a Kennedy assassination or a typical WASP Sunday dinner of over-roasted beef, lumpy mashed potatoes and soggy vegetables.

Analyze the roots of attractions all you wantlike scientists have doneand you won't come up with a perfect explanation for why we crave what we do. Desire rises from our depths and is gloriously oblivious to the good opinion of others. Yet until recently, I pretended that my lust was an equal-opportunity craving, because that seemed like the right thing to do.

Halfway through the first glass of wine in my last date with a white man, I realized that little clouds of sadness and self-pity were regularly fluffing off his psyche like the dust clouds kicked up by that dirt-smudged "Peanuts" character as he walks through Charlie Brown's life. This guy was at least mildly depressed, and I wanted to tell him to exercise, lose weight, trim the combover and get interested in something outside yourself. I would have walked out on him immediately, but he seemed to expect that. I couldn't deliver the blow to his ego proffered like the naked neck of a martyr to the ax. My Southern cousins would describe his general demeanor as a "hangdog air." Into the second glass of wine and glancing longingly at the exit, I wanted to hang that dog myself when he mentioned that his face was flushedI hadn't noticedbecause he'd taken a Viagra "just in case."

What did he think would entice me more: That he assumed sex was probable because I'm a sex journalistor that he would need chemical help if sex did occur?

I cannot even imagine a black man bungling an attempted seduction in such a sad way.

That was my last token white guy. I recently came out of my racial-preference closet and told my friends, "I love black men. I'm not attracted to white men over 40, and I'm not dating them anymore. Really, it's not them, it's me.

Nobody was surprised.
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Re: WHY BLACK MEN LOVE WHITE WOMEN? BY Rajen Persaud

Message par Nappy Soul le Dim 1 Fév - 1:49

Geez! This is my 3 rd attempt at this post
It's like there is an invisible force trying to keep me from spittin' the truth up in here!

Anywho. Let's get to it.

I don't really think that black men love white women specifically. I think we love women period.There is no discrimination there. Don't matter what crayola color a woman comes with, if she's fullfills the criteria of a black man's needs...Black dude will stick around. We don't have very high standard.That is a luxury left to White men and Black women.

Chris Rock put it best in his last HBO special " Kill The Messenger". A white woman, let's call her "Brittney"; can be average or ugly ( In white perspective of beauty) let's say she is kinda chubby, might not have the face of an angel, have bow legged legs or be what we reffer as a butterface. Now Brittney might not have dudes hollering at her in white clubs or at least not as much and by whom she would want. Brittney could walk in any black club at all and come out of theere with more phone numbers than her cell phone could hold. When it comes to women black men are not all that specific.

Now black women is another ball game, of course they are naturally attracted by black dudes; but socio economics have stepped in as of late and this is especially true for North America, there's a reality that need to be accepted; black men are not economically productive ( The reasons are too multiple to mention but they're directly linked with socio -political reasons); results you have a lot of young women, with good jobs out there, that have to look forward to take care of a man.Which we all agree is not the way nature intended ( That shit ain't never gonna be cool; no matter how some broke ass clowns would try to make it believe)..At least for a long term. Result you'll hear a lotta Young, nubians, single and free sistah talking about: "I'm tired of these triflin' brothas, I'm gonna get me some white chocolate". Yes I've even heard that speech from our Congolese sistas... I ain't judgin' or nothing... Rolling Eyes tongue

Now, the thing here is that black woman will say yes to white man. But she has conditions. It's not any old white dude ( It's still true back home unfortunately but that is changing fast here)...No sirry bob. Sista wants a stud. White dude has to have good looks, has to have style, has to be paid , respectful... And my favorite...Romantic ( Which also means sexually skilled as well as taking her out to places that don't have menues stuck on the wall with bright neon plastic signs)...That criteria is not met by a good 85% of white men out there. Which means that the attraction there is not natural. Sistas are not naturally attracted to white dudes.

White dudes...As mentionned earlier have the same problem as black women.They have high standards.Even the most beat up white dude out there, thinks in his heart that he can get a pin up , covergirl type chick ( Their confidence about that amazes me). They nitpick every little detail about their women, which is why a lot of white chick you will meet suffer from low self esteem and why even huge fat black women suffer from the opposite, high self esteem. Ask women like Monique. It ain't all comedy a lotta them believe they are as hot as they claim to be.

The nature of the black man and white woman phenomena is as old as the day the 1 st boat of African slaves shipped on the shores of this continent. There's a fascination there. Now let's be clear about the fact that ( They started it) white women were fascinated with The Mandingo way before it became fashionable for us to embrace them. The mystique of the black man was sustained then and of course it had to be named as taboo as God forbids , the master's wife is attracted by these Black Savage Slaves...That wouldn't be cool...So yeah; you try you die and things were not completely safe for the white women that indulged neither.

Fast forward 400 years later, we're a more advanced society ( at least that's what we want to believe..I have my doubts); race relations are more lax, whicjh has over time given us the chance to know each other a little better, the exposure of our way of life showed that our differences ( eventhough existing) are not as significant as our similarities. There's still some lingering ignorance out there ( I suspect more than we know and on both sides) but that primal attraction is still around.

I believe it has to do with the nature of the white woman in general, they're bubbly, chatty, easily approachable, at first glance agreable...It's easy to get along with someone like that.

Black women are often guarded ( This is also true for Hispannics from specific countries, asians and East Indians); they act all paranoid ( Which is easily translated as hostility), you have to work harder to earn their trust, they walk around with shields...For most brothas, specially the new type brothas...That's too much work. Brittney invites you at her crib for a drink a week after your first encounter. Why bother with the grueling courtship process that black women ( Of course especially Africans ladies and ladies from teh carraibeans) still cling to? Now I personnaly believe that it's usually worth the prize but that's just me.

*This is the unedited version, I'll be back to finnish it up* Dont wanna heve to do this a 4th time.
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Message par Le Negrier le Mer 4 Fév - 12:46

Rajen Perrsaud sees the fundamental cause of this social phenomena as racism or residuals of racism. He thinks that to understand why black men love white women, we should start with the white man.
For him, the white male has created a false sense of security for white women, in order to increase his(the white man's) power and control. The white man has created this idea that the white woman is innocent, helpless, and in great need for protection. The white woman is psychologically conditionned to fear the black male and the black female. He gives several examples to illustrate this point of view of his:
- In the early 1900 a governor in Mississipi won his election by focusing his campain on "the ability to protect one's wife against the black beast."
- The rape of a white woman in Central Park in 1989 and the reactions of the white male population (Trump and others)
- The O.J. Simpson case
In concluding with his first reason, Persaud thinks that the white man saw et continues to see sexual activity between a black man and a white woman as a threat to his superiority or hegemony. He thinks that in reality white men just seek to perpetuate this hegemony, because when one looks closely, the white female is not treated as an equal by the white male.

What do you guys think about this first and fundamental reason? I will come back with other reasons the author gives before giving my own point of view.

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Message par Silver le Mar 10 Fév - 3:16

I think the white has been more succesful convincing the black male that he is this brutal beast who only knows how to be savage and scary. Just watch the tv, whether its a sporting broadcast or a movie made in haollywood, the black male is always angry and menacing, and the white man usually plays the voice of reason. I use to hate those stupid nba ads where you have a "typical" negro nba player doing something and then you have some skinny white male playing the calm guy who help the player with something. Or you have a nba player talking about people hating him. Rarely you see a commercial where the black man is calm and intelligent. I think only Jordan was making more cool and calm commercial (because Spike Lee was behind them).
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Message par Nappy Soul le Lun 16 Mar - 5:55

I just saw this and right away I thought it belonged here. Laughing lol!
Now I need to get the whole DVD.


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Message par Le Negrier le Mar 17 Mar - 13:56

Nappy Soul a écrit:I just saw this and right away I thought it belonged here. Laughing lol!
Now I need to get the whole DVD.



This is hilarious!

I have to apologize that I did not come back with more comments from the book as I promised. I took the book on a trip to Seattle a few weeks ago and forgot it in the hotel. I'll probably order another copy.

I didn't realize so many notorious black men married white women: Leopold Sedar Senghor, Check Anta Diop, Michael Jackson, Sydney Poitiers, Charles Barkley,etc.

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